Etiquettes of Sexual Relations

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INTRODUCTION

Islam is a complete way of life. Islam provides guidance and regulations for even the private moments of a Muslim’s life. In the collection of Ahadith and the Seerah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) there are numerous incidents and occasions when his companions came forward and enquired from him about matters related to private life and it’s problems. Even the womenfolk from his followers came forward and enquired with regard to matters that are related to marital life and it’s private issues. They did not feel ashamed or shy to learn the truth, nor did our Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi wasallam) feel ashamed to expound the truth as the Quran Majeed says: “And Allah (Azza-wa-Jall) does not feel ashamed of the Haqq.”33/53

It is thus clear that there is nothing wrong in learning or discussing matters related to marriage and sex for the sake of educating ourselves Islamically: Today when the world is realizing the importance of “sex education” in their crude and rude outlook, then why should we as Muslims feel ashamed of revealing Islam’s decent and refined teachings in this field?

Due to constant exposure to pornographic material and other shameless literature, many Muslims have overstepped the limits of Shariah in the fulfillment of their sexual lusts and desires and thus brought upon themselves the harms of this world and the next, particularly in the form of certain deadly diseases, illnesses and infections. Many of them are blissfully unaware that there are any Islamic injunctions in this regard and due to sheer ignorance of Islamic regulations have transgressed the Laws of Shariah, thus causing harm and injury not only to themselves, but even to their partners and their yet unborn off-spring as the pages ahead will reveal.

Thus a need was felt to educate the Muslim public, particularly our younger generation and especially those prospective young couples that are on the threshold of entering info the sacred bond of Nikah, in this often-neglected aspect of Islam, in order that their health and marital bond remain intact and protected from all harms and sorrow. It is hoped that every couple and couple-to-be will benefit greatly from this booklet. Insha-Allah.

Finally, a word regarding the material content of this book. The contents of this book have been extracted from authentic sources as the bibliography will reveal, Insha-Allah. The advices and observations on this topic are the result of years of experience, deep in sight and the spiritual foresight of our pious and wise elders, predecessors and Ulema. To cast any aspersions on their words and teachings would be tantamount to doubting their integrity and erudition. None who claims to be a true Muslim has the right to such presumptuousness. If the athiestic western scientists and their worshippers find any of these teachings to be nonconformant to their “research and findings”, it is of no significance or concern to us. The “everchanging nature” of own their theories is proof enough of the flimsiness and uncertainty of their teachings, which are nothing but conjectural pastimes as far as we are concerned. The mocking, jeering and sneering of such people should be discarded with the contempt it deserves. The teachings of our great luminaries is and will always remain dear and precious to us. Insha-Allah.

May Allah (Azza-wa-Jall) make their booklet a means of reward and saviour for this humble servant and make it a means of guidance and benefit to His sincere and obedient servants. Aameen.

Islamic Book Service, India